Let’s really talk here.
Have you been through something with someone and you always have that thought going through your head like:
“Can I trust them”
“Are they telling me the truth”
“Are they hiding something”
“Are they really out with their friends or entertaining another guest behind my back?”
“Is that really their sibling like they said they were”
“Are they really working late”
‘Who are they always texting”
“Why are they always in their phone when I thought the most important person was right in front of them”
“Will they keep my secret”
“Will they steal from me”
“Are they doing things or saying things behind my back”
“Are they using my kindness as a weakness”
“Are they just talking to me because they need or want something, like feeling used “
I am not a therapist or a doctor, I am just a person that has learned and still learning how to handle certain topics. I just want everyone to learn from my mistakes and maybe take notes for when then come across a similar issue.
According to Webster Trust means: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something; one in which confidence is placed.
I honestly say that trust issues have to be built from past experiences with others and or insecurities within. Yes we are human and will be hurt throughout our lives but please try not to carry what someone did to you to the next person. At least give them the opportunity to earn your trust properly. I am not saying not to build a safety wall for your heart and feelings, but just take it easy with one another and don’t always jump the gun!
I get very insecure and depressed sometimes because I don’t feel pretty enough for my significant other, which would cause me to think that they aren’t here for me, or what is their motive, or maybe they deserve that person that walked by that caught their attention or that person you think is trying to take them away from you.
Build your trust with that person over time, it will be insecure thoughts or trust issues in the beginning but that is the early stage between the relationship. Yes it is hard, especially when you have been hurt by so many people. Try to learn from your mistakes and see what you did wrong or what signs they provided that you couldn’t see so you can be well prepared the next time around.
What is the importance of trust? Trust is the core to a strong relationship, always remember that.
Trust is not something that should be given to everyone who may not deserve it. This can be for a relationship, partnership or friendship.
If you still find yourself having trust issues, talk with the person you are with to figure out what the reasoning may be behind it. The issue is always talking to everyone for help besides the one you are having the issues with. You are able to communicate better so both sides of the party can have a better understanding.
Please don’t always assume everyone lie or cheat; The key is learning to identify those who show signs of not respecting the trust and learning to let go of the bad experiences in your past
How do you build trust? Trust is something that can be built over time – here are some helpful tips:
Communicate openly.
Admit mistakes and never lie.
Do not rush the process.
Do things together.
Get to know each other better.
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